Social researchers have observed two common motivators for gossiping:
- Low self-esteem and
- Desire to “fit-in”
Many use gossip as a social glue. While people understand that the goal of gossip is not truth or accuracy, they still indulge in gossip. Because what matters is the bond that gossiping can forge, often at the expense of a third party. When two people share a dislike of another person, it (gossip) brings them closer. But gossip can be isolating and harm other’s reputation.
If you are habitual gossiper, ask yourself: Do I have low self-esteem? If so, what can I do about it?
Knowing about “why we gossip” can be an opportunity to know more about ourselves.